The Happiness Triangle

The Happiness Triangle

By Fawn Weaver on Monday, December 3, 2012


It’s Day 15 of our 21 Days to a Happier You series and it is my sincere hope you’ve gained more over the past two weeks than you ever thought possible.  This week, we will tackle one of the weightiest topics I’ve ever attempted on this blog.

As I mentioned in yesterday’s post, when I kicked off this series, I shared with you my belief that there are only 3 things that impact our overall happiness for better or for worse:

Relationship with Self

Relationship with Others

Relationship with God

I knew from the moment I typed that third line, these next 7 days would be the most challenging in the series to write.

One of the reasons I had that thought was because I know HWC is quite possibly one of the most diverse women’s community in the world.

With members in more than 100 countries, hundreds of different cultures, socio-economic backgrounds, beliefs, faiths and values, stating a person’s relationship with God is pivotal to their overall happiness can potentially raise more questions than it deliver answers.

But I also knew I had to be honest with you and share that I’ve met very few people who have found true happiness (and certainly a happy marriage) without a belief in Someone much greater than themselves.

Maybe it’s because of how I was raised or perhaps my unwavering belief in God is partially a result of something I once heard my pastor, Rick Warren say, “I don’t personally have enough faith to be an atheist.” 

I didn’t begin this club two years ago with the hope of changing people’s religious views and I am not going to begin adjusting its purpose now.  I’ve spent close to two decades studying happiness -its causes and effects- but I do not, in any shape or form, consider myself an expert.  I am a perpetual learner (and applier of what I’ve learned).

My personal experiences, and those of the thousands of others I’ve spoken to on this subject over the years, has caused me to conclude the most challenging road to happiness is a faithless one.

For this reason, I could not in good faith write a 21-day series on boosting your happiness and not spend one-third of that time on the benefits of building a stronger relationship with God.

I recognize this will not ring true for everyone, and for those in which this does not settle well, I say to you, “Grace, my friend.”  I ask you, with the greatest humility, to forgive me in advance if this portion of the series causes you any form of disappointment.  And if you’re certain this doesn’t impact your happiness, feel free to ignore me (promise, I won’t be offended :) ).

On this site, I write solely from experience -always have, always will- and recognize my vantage point is shaped by those experiences (as well as the many I’ve interviewed over the years) which may differ greatly from yours.  And I respect that.  I respect you.

I write this final week out of a desire for everyone in this club to not only be happy in your marriage but in your life.  I’m certainly stepping out of my comfort zone by writing it (if you can’t already tell) and recognize it most certainly will not be what you’re accustomed to reading here in my daily posts.  But I trust, if you return here for the next six days with an open heart, your ability to create and build happiness in every aspect of your life will be yours for the taking.

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

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